FAQ for Birth Parents
Golden Cradle wants to give you the help you need, when you need it! Our agency has been working with women facing unplanned pregnancies for 37 years. Our experienced and caring staff will give you personal support to meet your individual needs. Our goal is to help you consider all your options and then help you choose among them. Should you choose adoption as the right choice for you, our staff will work with you throughout the process to make your choice a reality.We will also be there after the adoption to support you in move toward your life’s goals.
It is your choice who is selected to adopt your child. The Adoption Specialist at Golden Cradle will help you develop a list of attributes you are seeking in an adoptive family. With your list as a guide, the adoption specialist will provide you with profiles of families. After considering these profiles you will have the opportunity to meet the family of your choice before making the final selection for your child.
In New Jersey prospective families are required to complete background checks, participate in a home study and receive education about adoption and parenting. The staff at Golden Cradle provides all these services as well as ongoing support to parents to ensure a successful match.
The process is long and detailed and includes information about their home, jobs, finances, health, extended family, marriage and relationships, background, criminal and child abuse clearances,and references. Also included is education about adoption related topics and parenting issues, evaluation of their plans for parenting and discipline, exploration of their feelings about talking with children about adoption, and openness with birth parents. Our staff takes every precaution to insure that the parents that are approved for adoption are well qualified to provide your baby with a loving, positive and secure environment.
Golden Cradle was one of the first agencies to encourage semi-open adoptions. We believe it is your choice to determine what type of relationship you have with your child and the adoptive family. We will support your decision and try to find the family that best meets your needs and the needs of your baby.
Completely open adoption is an adoption where the birthparents and adoptive families have the option to contact each other during the pregnancy and after the baby is born. The birth parent sees the child and the child knows the birth mother. Closed adoption is an adoption in which the biological parents and the adoptive parents do not meet and have little to no information about each other. There is usually no contact with each other.
Semi-open adoptions are adoptions in which non-identifying letters and photos are exchanged routinely and sometimes visits are included. Many times media such as facebook is used to maintain contact.
Your particular circumstance will determine the services that are provided. These services can include financial assistance. Our services include extensive support and counseling by trained, experienced professionals. Support and counseling are provided throughout the hospital stay and after the adoption placement as well. Adoption Specialists are also able to make arrangements for more formal and long-term outpatient therapy when needed.
In addition we can provide support in the following areas: financial assistance with your current housing , assistance in locating appropriate medical care, and reimbursement for transportation costs related to your pregnancy. All appropriate legal expenses associated with the adoption process will be paid by Golden Cradle.
All adoption agencies provide supportive counseling throughout the adoption planning process. Support and counseling are provided throughout the hospital stay and after the adoption placement as well. Adoption counselors are also able to make arrangements for more formal and long-term outpatient therapy when needed as well. It is important that if you are considering adoption for your baby you talk with your adoption counselor about all of your needs so they can do their best to help you meet them.
It is also important for you to know that the father’s rights are equal to yours. Whenever possible the staff at Golden Cradle encourage the involvement of both parents. Sometimes, however, this is not possible. The law takes this into consideration. Our goal is to help you understand the laws and your rights.
You can place a child without the father’s consent. New Jersey has specific rules for the termination of the father’s rights and your adoption specialist will work to insure that the proper procedures are followed.
You do not need to name the father to place a child for adoption. However, the agency personnel must make every effort to show the court an attempt was made to determine his identity and locate him.
Golden Cradle will keep your information confidential. The identifying information in your file will not be shared with anyone outside the agency without your permission.
However, it is important that you understand that in NJ an adoptee has the right to view his/her original birth certificate when he reaches the age of 18 or with the permission of the adoptive parent before that time.
There are many parents who are well informed about children who are exposed to drugs and alcohol and would be very willing to parent your child. Golden Cradle staff can help you locate the treatment that can best support you and your baby.
Any mother can choose adoption. The Adoption Specialist at Golden Cradle can help you through this frightening and stressful time in your life. We can help you connect with the proper medical care and support a safe living environment. We can also help you consider your options including adoption. You do not have to face the birth of your child alone.
Your adoption specialist will help you make a delivery plan for your hospital stay. You will have the opportunity to decide who you will contact when you go into labor and who you will want to be at the hospital with you during labor and delivery as well as after the birth. Some mothers choose to include the adoptive parents during this time while others prefer to be alone or include family and friends for support. You have many choices to make and our adoption specialists are here to be of help.
We hope that you will want to see your child. You will always have an important role in your child’s life. However, the decision to see your child is yours to make.
The baby will not go into foster care if you have made an adoption plan before the child is born. Your child will leave the hospital with the adoptive family.
In New Jersey you are able to terminate your rights 72 hours after the child is born. This is usually done at a meeting with agency staff. You will not be required to go to court.
Your child will want to understand the circumstances of your choice. Your child will want to know that your actions were in his/her best interest. The most important information you can provide your child is the knowledge that you did the hard work to consider all your options and that in the end you decided that his/her well being was the most important consideration.